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Balancing work and play while wearing many hats (I mean heels).

March Favorites

April 6, 2015

Hey, April, Hey! Seriously, can you believe we are already into a new month? We are officially 1/4 of the way through 2015! Yes, 1/4 of the way! It is super cray, cray (hip way of saying crazy).

My beauty picks for the month of March are slim pickings, but don’t let the quantity fool you.  These three items pack a mean punch. So, much so, that instead of waiting to share, I decided to move forward with this post. As a new mommy, with a three-month old, I don’t have much time for lengthy regiments and I am not spending much money on myself these days. Instead my investments are in the form of wipes, diapers and cute little outfits that make me giggle in delight. The last time I got this excited over clothes was when Mattel started making hip Barbie clothes and I would go shopping with my chore money. The point is these items are all at a very affordable price point.

April Favorites 1 – Coconut Foot Creme – My absolute new favorite beauty item! I declare this product a miracle worker. Here is the gist. Cute shoes – check, Painted toenails – check, Pretty feet – cricket, cricket… Somewhere in the last few years I developed cracked heels. They become terribly tough and dry through the winter. Then when the weather finally turns around and I can break out my sandals, I feel slightly insecure. This cream, or should I write, creme (read it with a British accent too. It just makes it sound better) showed its power very quickly. In just three days I noticed results. I just lather up my heels and then wear a pair of socks to bed. So, easy!

2 – Prime Time Foundation – This product had been sitting in my bathroom cabinet just waiting to be used and now that I am using it I am so sorry I ignored it for so long. Really, Prime Time, I am sorry. See I typically use another primer brand and when I found myself out of that product last month, I turned to this here bottle. And, to the rescue she came! Why I am referring to Prime Time as a human and a female, I don’t know, but please play along with me. Here is how she works… apply a small amount to your face after moisturizing but before you apply your makeup foundation. It makes your face so smooth and provides an even texture making makeup last longer and look less cakey.  I tend to have drier skin, so this product works for me. Although, if you have oily, I have heard mix reviews.

3 – Jergens Natural Glow Foaming Daily Moisturizer – Get yo’ tan on girl! That is what I said to myself as I starred at my legs. You could see my veils. Seriously. That is how pale I was! With the forecast actually showing 60 degrees, I know I needed to take some action. I picked up this bottle without any investigating into self-tanning products. I literally just grabbed her (there I go again) off the shelf and went on my merry way. Luckily, I am surprised with how much I like this product. After three applies I have noticed a difference. It no longer appears like I am wearing white hose! It is the quickest and easiest self tanner I have used. Tip: Apply a little moisturizer to your wrists, knees and elbows before applying, that way you don’t get and odd coloring in those locations.

That is all folks! Have any must-try, must-buy beauty products? If so, feel free to comment.

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Looks For Less

March 28, 2015

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I have a slight obsession with jewelry.  Now before you roll yours eyes at me, please know this obsession does not impact my husband or our wallet because while I am all for accessorizing, I am also all about not spending a fortune.

Costume jewelry is much more my focus. Take me into Tiffany and Co. and yes I will smile and gawk at the jewels before me, but take me into a pop-up accessory store and I will jump up and down and scream like the audience members when Oprah announced everyone was getting a car.

In fact, I was walking through the hallway at work this past week, with a statement necklace on and someone stopped me and said, “I love your necklace! Kendra Scott, right?” (I had no idea who Kendra Scott was. Now I do.). I stopped, thought about telling a white lie and nodding my head yes, but instead replied, “Honestly, you won’t believe it but it was a Payless Shoes accessory find.”  The kind woman replied, “Honey, you got yourself a knock-off!”

Necklace - Looks For Less

LEFT:  Forever21 – 7.90  ||  RIGHT: JCrew – 99.00

Ring - Looks For Less

LEFT:  Tiffany and Co. – 650.00  ||  RIGHT:  Baublebar – 28.00

Bracelet - Looks For Less

LEFT:  Banana Republic – 34.99  ||  RIGHT:  Alexander McQueen – 365.00

Earrings - Looks For LessLEFT:  Charming Charlie – 8.00  ||  RIGHT:  Barneys (Irene Neuwirth) – 3,080.00

How insanely close is the last example? I can’t get over the similarity visually and then to see a price point of $8 versus $3,080?!?! Say, wha!!  Explanation point city happening right here.  Moral of the story – you can look extra chic for extra cheap! Happy Shopping!

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0-3 Months Baby Must Haves

March 23, 2015

Preparing for baby Lo felt like a college cram session (in case you are new to the blog, I should share that this is my first child). When I initially found out I was pregnant I downloaded the What To Expect App, which I would very much recommend to any new mommies out there. It tracks your pregnancy and provides daily advice based on your pregnancy progression. Some days I would wake up with a new pregnancy symptom or worry and open the App and the daily topic would be so relevant. MIND BLOWN! Download the App!

When we revealed to family and friends our news, an overwhelming amount of verbal advice came rushing in. From which bottles to use and what diapers are the best, to the must have baby gadgets and whether or not organic matters.

I honestly had a few panic attacks in the first trimester from the overwhelming amount of advice I was receiving. It felt suffocating at times. At one point I even thought… “I should have read more before I thought about getting pregnant! How will I ever learn everything?”

Some of my biggest worries came down to baby products. It felt like I needed a truckload to welcome baby. I scanned Consumer Reports, read Baby Blogs, listened to fellow Mommy’s advice and visited website reviews. Looking back there were things I could have lived without but there are also those things that have been absolutely necessary.

0-3 Month Must Haves

Baby Must Haves

1 – Aden + Anais Classic Swaddles – These are my absolute favorite baby item! There is a huge difference when swaddling baby in Aden + Anais versus a cotton receiving blanket.They are made from muslin so they are breathable. Plus, the patterns are super cute too!

2 – Ingenuity Moonlight Rocking Sleeper – This is the sole reason I sleep at night! Baby Lo loves this Sleeper. When she was born we had the Sleeper in our Living Room because it is not as bulky as a Pack N’ Play. Once we realized Baby Lo preferred to sleep in the Rocking Sleeper over the Pack N’ Play we had set up in our room, well, we packed up the Pack N’ Play and moved the Sleeper back beside our bed. She loves the incline position.

3 – Motorola Digital Video Baby Monitor – When you can’t be two places at once, this digital monitor is a must! I can sneak in a shower while the baby sleeps in the next room and not have to worry that I can’t hear her because this monitor has video and sound capabilities.

4 – Britax B-AGILE Travel System Stroller – I spent the absolute most time researching the best stroller and car seat for Baby Lo. I read so many reviews and received so much advice. Go to the store and test out the products! That is my advice. I was torn between this brand and another, but once I tested the Britax system out while registering I knew this was the one for me. The stroller is lightweight and will grow with baby. Storage is also super convenient.

5 – Munchkin Formula Dispenser – This inexpensive must have is one super valuable item. One time my in-law accidentally took ours home, mistaking it for theirs and both my husband and I planned our day around picking it up. Since, I breastfeed and supplement formula, this little invention is so helpful for when we are on-the-go or even for middle of the night feedings.

6 – Dreambaby Room & Bath Thermometer – This is an absolute must! I can’t tell you how many times I have thought the bath water felt just right but was well over 102 degrees! A big no, no for baby bath time. What feels good to you as an adult is so much different for baby. I did hear a great tip to use your elbow to test bath water versus your hand, but it is still comforting to know what temperature the water is before I put the baby in.

7 – AVENT Soothie Pacifier – Have you read this? Now you know why I love a binkie!

8 – Baby K’Tan – I researched the perfect baby carrier and after reading many other Blogs giving this product high praises, I was so happy to receive the Baby K’Tan and equally enjoy. It is super durable, cleanable and lightweight! Plus, you get your hands back, so you can cook, clean, pay bills… you know, fun adult stuff. Baby Lo loves when I put her in the Baby K’Tan and vacuum the house. She falls right asleep!

9 – Boppy – If you are breastfeeding then I would highly recommend the Boppy. During the first few weeks the Boppy was so important in providing support. As Baby Lo got bigger, the Boppy has been great for propping and supporting her while I fold laundry beside her or even put on some make-up. I know, crazy?! Also, make sure the Boppy is purchased before you have baby and pack it with your Hospital Bag. Trust me! You will be so happy you did!

10 – Medela Breast Pump – Again, if you choose to breastfeed, this is a must! Once your milk comes in and you start to get the hang of breastfeeding you will want to explore pumping. I was so grateful once I had stored milk for someone else to assist with a feeding. My insurance covered this pump. It is a basic pump, but I really like it and would recommend it to anyone who is planning on breastfeeding.

What items would you recommend for a Baby Registry? Do you have must have baby items for 0 – 3 month old babies? If so, please share below!

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Sausage And Pesto Pizza

March 18, 2015

One item that is typically always in my refrigerator is a pizza crust.  Now the toppings, well that is another story, but a pizza crust, yes, you will find.  Pizza is an easy solution to weeknight dinner predicaments. Since, we are creatures of habit in my household, we typically lean towards pepperoni and cheese or a version of a supreme depending on what vegetables are available. My personal favorite is our buffalo chicken which is a recipe we have perfected, but every now and then we get creative. In my opinion when you mix creativity with simplicity in the kitchen, well boys and girls, you have culinary success!

This recipe was adapted from another Blog, Food n’ Focus. I stumbled upon the post on Pinterest and after I made some adjustments based on the ingredients I had on hand, I decided to share with you.

Sausage Pesto Pizza
SAUSAGE AND PESTO PIZZA:

  • 1 Tbsp of Olive Oil
  • 1 Pre-made Store Bought Pizza Dough
  • 4 Sweet Italian Sausage Links
  • 1/2 Cup of Pesto
  • 1 Cup of Shredded Mozzarella Cheese
  • 1/2 Cup of Shredded Parmesan Cheese
  • 1 Jar of Artichokes
  • Handful of Parmigiano-Reggiano Shavings
  • 1 Package of Pre-Cooked Chicken

Pre-heat the oven to 375 degrees.

Remove casing from the Sweet Italian Sausage Links and crumble the sausage. Cook the sausage in 1 Tbsp of Oil in a skillet on medium high.  Once cooked through, remove and drain.

Start by spreading 1/2 a cup of Pesto over the Pizza Dough. Then layer on 1 cup of the Shredded Mozzarella Cheese and 1/2 cup of Shredded Parmesan Cheese. Add the Artichokes and the Pre-Cooked Sausage to the top of the Pizza. Sprinkle the top with a handful of Parmigiano-Reggiano Shavings. Place the Pizza directly on the top oven rack and place a baking sheet on the rack below to catch any food. Cook for about 10-15 minutes.

Remove and sprinkle with fresh basil.

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How I Survived The Market With An Infant

March 15, 2015

* I must begin this post with explaining the word “Market.” In my neck of the woods, we refer to a Grocery Store as a Market and we refer to a large grocery purchase as a “Market Order.” I work in the next state over from where I call home and I will never forget the looks on my co-worker’s faces as I casually stated, “Yeah, this weekend I made it to the Market. I had to get a huge Market Order so I am packing a good lunch today, girls.” Everyone stared at me like I was talking in a new language. Later I learned no one had any clue what a “Market” was nor a “Market Order” and had visions of me shopping at a Farmer’s Market style venue where I sent in a pre-order and picked it up. My one co-worker said, “I envisioned you in a farm field with rows upon rows of produce in crates.” Ahhhh, I wish. So, now that I set the vocabulary for my post, let’s dive in.

Yesterday I accomplished a feat.  It was such an accomplishment that my exhausted mind and body are just now sitting down to write this post. What major event do you have to announce, you ask? Well, Baby Lo and I successful went to the Market.

You see up until this point, I have solely relied upon my husband for the market runs. While I was on Maternity Leave he would call before leaving the office and stop to get anything I may need which usually consisted of coffee (I was sleep deprived), water (I was always thirsty) and Oreo’s (my sweet tooth from pregnancy never disappeared).

Twice, just twice can I recollect taking the baby to the market in the last 12 weeks. Both times have been for essentials and no more than the Express Lane limit. In and out was my motto! Once, I attempted to take her for an order. I was getting her out of her car seat to transfer her to the Baby K’Tan and after realizing she had a dirty diaper and changing her on a slant in the backseat of the car, I was so tired and she was so cranky, that I packed her back up in the car seat and came home. We ordered take-out that night.

Let me tell you… I felt like the Little Engine that could. “I think I can, I think I can.” She just successfully downed a bottle, had a nice clean diaper and was in a snugly sleep as we walked into this new found land. By the way these three essentials are key. I had nightmares of having to breastfeed by the Frito Lays, so high fives for a full belly.

I sat baby Lo, who slept peacefully, car seat and all into the back of the buggy (Yep, shopping cart. You are learning quick, young grasshopper) and headed straight for produce. Have you ever grocery shopped with an infant that cannot yet sit upright in the buggy? Ummmm… newsflash, there is LIMITED room in the cart once baby and car seat are set down.  So, to say I had to get crafty and creative with my groceries is an understatement.  I somehow managed to fit all my produce and some additional items in the child seat portion of the buggy. I actually got excited over how I organized and utilized the minimum space I had. I know… I am weird.

Shopping with a baby has its major perks. Fear of a mid-shopping session meltdown and the lack of cart space had me on a mission and seconding the need for every purchase. No, more crazy thoughts like,  “I think I will make homemade granola this week!” Followed by parking my buggy in aisle 5 as I search Pinterest for a recipe.

I did however stop with baby to gawk at our Market’s amazing selection of Izze’s. Thank you for NOW deciding to carry more of a variety. I only lived off these when I was pregnant with Lo. FYI – Pregnant friends, these are amazing! Also, if you find yourself say at the beach pregnant or hanging out with non-pregnant, drinking friends… these are your lifesaver. Promise!

Izze - Shopping With An Infant

If that is not enough to make you giddy, going to the market with a baby means extra hands and help from the people around you. I would have never described fellow grocery shoppers up until this point as kind and patient. Let’s just say if I was Nora in Christmas with the Kranks, people would have been paying me to take the last of the Honey Ham.

At one point I launched the buggy into the middle of the aisle as I scanned the shelf for canned corn. I know, daring. I actually heard the woman sigh very loudly as if saying to me, “Okay, move! You are blocking the whole aisle.” Once she saw I had a baby in the buggy, she actually apologized and explained how she, “remembered those days.”

Market Trip

Finally as my journey came to an end, reality set in about the same moment I was searching through the diaper bag for my coupons and money.  While the baby fit so well in her car seat surrounded by the many items I was purchasing, how would she and the bulky disposable bags co-exist together in the buggy until I was able to unload. Let me tell you, I broke out into a cold sweat. And, so did other shoppers as people watched me unload the car seat, load the bulky bags that now took up all the buggy space and teeter the car seat on the rim of the buggy. (Don’t freak out! Apparently this is how I should have shopped with the car seat all a long.)

Walking out of the market, I just wanted to get home. Baby Lo was amazing but my constant worrying left me mentally exhausted. The funny thing is after I finally got everything unloaded and put away at home it dawned on me… I picked up nothing for dinner for that evening!! Seriously? How does this happen.

After rocking the baby to sleep, my husband and I kicked our legs up and dived into a hot dog. Guess what? I have always loved hot dogs, so life is good!

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Wednesday Wisdom

March 11, 2015

Is it just me or do Wednesdays seem to really be a breaking point in the week?  I think it is the momentum from Monday crashing with the excitement of the soon-to-be weekend that leaves me feeling unrest.  I had so much fun putting together my first Wednesday Wisdom post and promised more to come. Not every week, but when the time felt right and darnit… the time feels right.

So, if you are fighting any internal battles, not your best self or are searching for the words to turn your day, week or even month around; hopefully, one of these may strike your fancy and bring a new attitude and pep in your step.

Here is to Wednesday! May you be the catalyst for great things ahead.

Wednesday Wisdom
Wednesday Wisdom

Wednesday Wisdom

Wednesday Wisdom
Wednesday WisdomBy the way, the last picture is by far one of my top favorite quotes! It just makes me smile.

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Gingham Style

March 10, 2015

Eh – Sexy Lady oh oh oh oh
Oppa is Gingham style…

Try to get that song out of your head now! It is going to stick with you for a bit.  And, to think it only took three years since it was released to finally fight the earworm off. I know I am sorry!

You know what I am not sorry for? This Spring 2015 fashion trend and these looks that hopefully will stick with you like that darn song…

Gingham Style Spring Fashion

Notice the trend? This Spring’s fashion points to all things Gingham and I love this look. It is a refreshing style that can be dressed up or down and as you can see from some of the inspiration pictures I pulled above, whether you are leaning on the subtle side of the Gingham fence or dare to be bold, this Spring trend is so versatile.

From left to right:  Image 1 | Image 2 | Image 3 | Image 4 | Image 5 | Image 6

Ready to shop?  Here are some Gingham pieces I am currently eyeing up.
Gingham Style Spring Fashion

From left to right:  1. Shirt – Forever 21 – 17.90 | 2. Skirt – Bloomingdale’s – 68.00 | 3. Dress – ASOS – Reg. 92.00, Sale 37.00 | 4. Coat – Nordstrom (Michael Kors) – 128.00

Now hurry up and turn on some music to get the song out of your head and start shopping!

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Good Morning, Good Afternoon and Good Night Smoothie

March 7, 2015

“Good Morning, Good Afternoon and Good Night Smoothie” is what I shall name this smoothie because it really is good any time of day! I mean as I write this, my mouth is watering. It really is that delicious!  The story behind this concoction can be attributed to my limited time these days.  It was late in the evening, my husband made tacos with questionable meat. That is another story for another day but I will say when I walked into the kitchen and saw he was pacing over the meat sitting in a pan on the stove, I knew we had a problem. Long story short, he cooked the meat, I declined on the dinner gesture, he ate the food and walked away without getting sick. All is well.

I basically made this smoothie with a bunch of ingredient leftovers and it was so good I had to share! Smoothies really are your best friend if you allow them to be. They are easy to make, very tasty and with the right ingredients can be a super healthy option.  I find myself happier when I make smart food decisions vs caving to the chocolates calling my name in the “Snack Cupboard.” By the way… doesn’t everyone have a “Snack Cupboard?”

Good Morning, Good Afternoon & Good Night Smoothie:

Smoothie
Serves 2

  • 2 Bananas
  • 1 Cup of Frozen Strawberries
  • 1/2 Cup of Blueberries
  • 3/4 Cup of Orange Juice
  • 2 Tbsp of Honey

Combine the Bananas, Frozen Strawberries, Blueberries, Orange Juice and Honey in a blender. Mix well and serve!

Smoothie

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SALE ALERT: Extra 30% Off & Free Shipping

March 5, 2015

I am obsessed with pinning outfits on Pinterest. Have you seen MY BOARD? Problem is when you click the image and see the price points of the items that make up those outfits. WOW! Most of the time they are so out of my price range.

I like a good deal. So, I get a thrill out of replicating a look with less expensive, yet similar clothing items. What is even better? When the actual item you are eyeing up goes on sales. A really, really good sale.

Such is the case with this look I have been eyeing up on Pinterest.

Image credit - http://www.lilly-style.com/2013/01/spring-was-here-yesterday.html

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See that chain link bracelet? Yep! She has caught my eye for some time. Unfortunately, I was not willing to pay the price for her.  So, when I saw that J.Crew Factory was having a FLASH SALE today I was all game to fill my shopping cart. Guess what? The bracelet… it is there and on sale too!

SAVE AN EXTRA 30% OFF with the code SHOPSALE. Below are some of my favorite sale items. Keep in mind… an extra 30% off J.Crew Factory Clearance!! It is a good day.

EDIT: Offer valid at jcrewfactory.com through March 8, 2015, through 11:59pm ET. Some exclusions apply.

JCrew_Bracelet J.Crew Sweater
J.Crew Heels J.Crew Earrings

Get your shopping on!

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Spoil Away

March 4, 2015

I have been thinking about this post for some time now.  The thought of it keeps nagging me.  Often my posts are planned and other times they are spur of the moment, like this ONE. I was a blubbering mess when I wrote that one. It is one of my favorites though!

Sometimes a thought hits me and I jot down the idea to venture back around. However, this one, well this one, has kept coming at me like those “trust your gut” feelings. I will be honest, I kind of ignored the thought a few times because I was worried what people would think with what I had to say. Parenting can be so controversially because everyone does it differently and has their own biases. Then I thought, “this is my Blog dagnabbit and if I want to write about it, well I can.” That is how it goes when you are the boss. And, on here, I am the boss! 🙂

So, let’s go… hey, maybe it won’t be so bad?

The four words I really have grown to despise these days – “You are spoiling her!” I really don’t like hearing it. I actually hate it to be frank.

Can you really spoil a 10-week old baby?  It is not like she is asking for candy when we go to the market to which I either immediately cave or say “no” multiple times all while walking the aisles listening to her scream and cry until I can no longer take it, finally circling back around to hand her the candy. It is not like I make us a family meal to which my infant turns up her nose, declaring McDonald’s and then I rush out of our home to return with her nugget meal just in time before she has cried herself to sleep. You see to me… that is spoiling.

Right now I have a little baby whose only means of communicating with me is to cry. She knows no other way. She does not know what a temper tantrum is yet. She is not crying because she wants something out of selfishness or neediness. She cries because she can’t say – “hey, mom, ummm… I dirtied myself, a dry diaper would be awesome.” She cries because of basic needs.

I will admit, Lo likes to be held. She is content in our arms. If I put her under her play yard or in her swing, yes, I gain about 15 minutes of hands free time to do something. However, like clockwork though, she will cry and I will pick her up. “You are spoiling her. She wants to be held all the time.”  As a mom, it seriously goes through me like a knife.  Yes, she wants to be held, but the root of it is that she wants affection or to be close to someone. Just like crying because she is hungry, tired, has a dirty diaper or is not feeling good, needing comfort IS a basic need for an infant. In my opinion, responding to her is building her confidence. She is learning that she can rely upon me and trust that I will be there. I am building her sense of security. Isn’t that the opposite of dependence?

I have been told I am spoiling her from responding to her whimpering too quickly.  I should let her cry more before I pick her up. The fact is I see her hunger cues. She is rooting, sucking her hand or turning her head back and forth. Why wait until she is screaming to feed her? It is not spoiling when you know your baby and trust your intuition.  Soothing your child is part of parenting.

Granted I understand there will come a day when my infant reaches toddler hood and she will develop a sense of what is wrong and right. She will begin to understand how her actions affect her world.  She will have temper tantrums and push her boundaries and my buttons.  She will then enter a world where I will comprehend those dreaded words… “You are spoiling her!”

She is 10-weeks old today, but 10-years old tomorrow. I will love her and care for her and savor every single minute of her because one day I may not be the one she reaches for first, cries out to for help, depends on for basic needs or sadly, falls asleep in my arms.The reality of it all is that whether I am picking up my crying baby from her swing or allowing her to softly sleep on my chest, she is spoiling me. And, that, I am okay with!

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